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07-04-2009, 10:50 AM
First off, I'd like to wish everyone a happy 4th of July. Be safe and have fun.

I'd like to ask you to please keep my family in your prayers. Last night around 1am I received a call from a family member telling me my aunt had a stroke. She's been in ICU overnight and the doctors now aren't sure if it's a stroke or a seizure or what. Her blood pressure was over 300 and her heart rate was over 200. They shocked her body to lower her heart rate which was successful but her body started tightening up and she started having seizures as a result. She's now having to breathe with the assistance of a ventilator because her heart rate keeps fluctuating and preventing her from breathing properly.

So I'd like to ask that you just keep my family in your thoughts and prayers if you would. This is a hard pill to swallow on what should be a joyous day. I'm headed to the hospital now to try and make it to one of the 4 visitation periods.

Hope everyone else has a happy 4th.



I just got home from the hospital and things aren't looking good. She suffered a massive stroke and has had cerebral bleeding. The doctors have already told us that there's a good chance that her heart will fail and she won't make it. We've had to discuss how long life support will be used before pulling the plug.

Thanks for the prayers Shane.

07-04-2009, 01:26 PM
Sending prayers your way! Shane

Allen H
07-04-2009, 04:50 PM
Prayers are being shot up for you now like fireworks.
Allen H

07-04-2009, 04:57 PM
Prayers and good thought headed your way from here also. Please keep us posted and God Bless you and your family.

07-04-2009, 05:22 PM
So sorry to hear that your most recent update wasn't good. I'll still keep sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

07-04-2009, 07:41 PM
I am praying for your family, wishing for the best.

07-04-2009, 10:42 PM

Thank you so much everyone for your kindness and support! It means a lot, not just to me but my whole family as well. All the prayers and kind words from our churches, friends and places like this are helping us get through this tough time as we continue to hope for the best but prepare for the worst

I wish I had some better news to bring but she's on life support at the moment and the hospital staff has given her little to no hope of surviving this. We're retaining hope that she does but ultimately it's in the hands of the man above and it's his decision whether she'll make it or not.

I'll continue to keep this thread updated for any of you who wish to follow this.

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.


07-04-2009, 11:00 PM
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Jolly Pumpkin
07-04-2009, 11:01 PM
Rick, I'm so sad to hear this. I will keep your family in my prayers. Hopefully she will fight through this and it's not her time to go.

07-06-2009, 06:28 PM
Our prayers are with you!
You can count on that.


Fear Unfathomed
07-06-2009, 06:56 PM
Many, many, many prayers being sent your way. God knows what He's doing and I know He's there holding your hand through it all. My deepest hopes that she recovers.

07-06-2009, 10:32 PM
Thank you all for your kindness and support. The outpouring of love has been nothing short of amazing.

To give you all an update:

Yesterday things were still bad. Nothing had changed.

Today seemed to be a different story. While things still aren't what you would call "great", they're looking better. Today she looked more normal. Her face didn't seem as "smashed" or "stretched" and she was opening her eyes quite a bit, albeit only halfway but it's some improvement anyways. She was moving her body some too but nowhere near normal motor skills. She seemed like she was aware of us some of the times and if we asked her to open or close her eyes for some questions she would open or close them. Of course, this is all subjective and could be interpreted several different ways.

But she at least looked more like herself today. It was the first day I didn't break down or choke up upon seeing her.

I'm still hoping for a recovery. I know that there's a good chance that even if she does rebound from this, not only will it take time but she'll never be the same again but I'd hope that she could pull through and at least have some quality to life.

Thank you everyone for your support and love.

07-07-2009, 01:51 AM
Our prayers are with you!

may god be with your family and your aunt.

God will help her get through this, and im praying that she does.

Good luck, and tell her I said God Bless!

07-07-2009, 02:52 PM
Prayers and best wishes for your aunt and your family.

07-10-2009, 10:14 AM
She's been blinking on command more and seems to be answering questions this way. She's scheduled to have a trach tube put in today so that she can eat. Originally this was the idea of the doctors but then yesterday the nurses were teliing my cousin she shouldn't allow the trach to be put in because this may be as good as she ever gets. Time will tell.

07-18-2009, 12:18 PM

Things are starting to look a little better. My aunt is mostly off the ventilator. She's initiating breaths on her own and just has assistance from the ventilator which is a good sign. She's also opening her eyes and looking at you when you talk to her, though we think that sometimes she has trouble focusing. Last night she followed a hand up and down in front of her face. We think her right side might be paralyzed as she won't look to the right and that eye is a little bit crossed but slowly she's making some progress.

sLiTwRiSt ThE cLoWn
07-18-2009, 12:27 PM
It is really good that she is making progress. Im glad to hear that things are starting to go better for you, your aunt, and your whole family. The lord is magnificent and with all the support and love you show for your aunt things will work out. God bless and prayers for your family.

07-18-2009, 03:06 PM
Great news Rick!
We'll keep praying nonetheless!


07-18-2009, 08:10 PM
Your aunt, you, and your family are still in our thoughts and prayers.

07-18-2009, 08:20 PM
Still praying for your aunt.

Let her know about all of us here hoping for her to recover.

"Faith, Hope, Love"


07-20-2009, 05:28 PM
First off, I'd like to thank everyone for all your love, kindness, support and prayers. The outpouring of affection has been something that I'll never forget.

Though it is with deep sadness and a heavy heart that I have to say this. She took a turn for the worst and passed away around 12:30 pm this afternoon.

Late Sunday night she started getting worse because of her sugar and blood pressure levels and we were at the hospital until about 12:30 am. The doctors asked us if we wanted to put her on the ""Do Not Resuscitate" list and we reluctantly agreed. Early Monday morning we got a call that she was going downhill fast so we headed over to the hospital where we got the news that there wasn't anything that could be done for her. The blood pressure medicine wasn't doing anything for her and the ventilator was now doing all the breathing for her (all she could do was gasp) and her body would soon enter a state of septic shock which would end up shutting her body down. They took her off the ventilator, gave her a morphine drip to eliminate any pain that she might feel and waited for the inevitable.

Thank you all for everything and please keep my family in your prayers as we try to get through this tough time.


07-20-2009, 05:32 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Fear Unfathomed
07-20-2009, 06:00 PM
Extremely sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your entire family during this difficult time. May God send his comfort to all of you.

07-20-2009, 06:56 PM

Although I dont know you, I am deeply sorry for your loss and my condolences with you and your family.

However on the other hand, I am glad that this haunted community is very close and has the support from many, for a time like this, for you and your family.

Our Prayers with you.

sLiTwRiSt ThE cLoWn
07-21-2009, 01:05 AM
This forum and all the members are amazing. Rick, I am very sorry for your loss and may your aunt go to a better place and live happy and healthy. It is truelly amazing to see how close people are in the forum. I wish you and your family the best and keep your head up!!! God Bless

07-21-2009, 01:55 PM
What are the chances of this. Last night I lost two friends in a car crash in clarence New York. they were only 19. It was just yesterday I was talking to you about loosing one of your loved ones.

07-22-2009, 08:59 AM
That's terrible! It doesn't make it any easier whether they're relatives or friends, does it? I hope you're doing okay. My thoughts are with you and their families during this tough time.

07-24-2009, 06:26 PM

How are things going for you? I know this must be hard for you along with your friends' family. We just laid my aunt to rest today so the stress level has lowered a little bit. I'll keep you and your friends' family/families in my thoughts. A loss is never easy no matter who it is.